Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. – Dalai Lama
I am a firm believer of self love and self compassion and that you can’t project these things if you don’t have them for yourself. If you don’t have compassion for yourself it’s pretty hard to have it for other people. I also know that you are the only one who has access to your thoughts and feelings so you are the only one who knows what is right for you; but I think a piece of the puzzle that I’m missing is to do that with compassion for others. If we are all supposed to be connected through life then we should all have empathy and compassion for others. This doesn’t mean living for others, it means living for yourself with kindness and love for everyone.
Empathy is something that I find myself incredibly frustrated with in life. I find many people I come in contact with lack that empathy and compassion for others. In fact in the past when I have demonstrated empathy or kindness for someone I have been met with angry confussion. Why is she doing this? What do you get from this? Is it possible that all I receive is happiness knowing that your happy. Why can’t that be my goal?
I am not always an empathic person and I am not always compassionate but I find myself incredibly frustrated with the lack of trying in today’s world. Doing what’s right for you should include love and thought for yourself and as well as others. I don’t always do this myself but we can do what’s in our best interest while thinking about love and empathy for others. We don’t know their whole picture but we know what we feel so we can apply that.
I used to work in philanthropy and I worked with a woman who always said “True philanthropy is anonymous. It is simply doing something kind because it is kind, not because you get anything in return”. I couldn’t agree more. When you are operating from a place of love you can’t go wrong.
Decisions we make need to have ourselves in first thought but we need to do it with love and compassion for others. We don’t live in a vaccuum so I can’t just say I love grapes so much and eat all of them leaving none left for the rest of my grape loving family. It’s about balance, some for me, some for you – I satisfy my need for grapes while being empathic to my families need for grapes too. A better balance is something I’m really striving for. Can I do something for myself, with my best interest at heart while still being empathetic for you – absolutely; but it means a little practice in getting there.
There is a lot of anger and frustration in the world and I’m just as guilty as the next person to live there but what if we just cut each other a break? What if we were kind, understanding and compassionate in balance with ourselves?
That would be awesome!